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Alex, I already missed you, buddy.
I know. We were down I was down there
visiting you over the weekend having a
great time. Uh so we to prepare for the
tour and I noticed something while I was
down there, Phil, and I couldn't shut up
about it. All right. I could not shut up
about it because at one point I was
like, there's not that many around
there. And then we realized I was
leaning on one flock cameras cuz I was
down there visiting you in the Atlanta
metro area and uh apparently you told me
and then producer Ben confirmed it and
then I Googled it to double check it and
then I scrolled to the second page of
Google to find an article to confirm it
cuz I don't trust the [ __ ] Gemini AI
and it's true. Atlanta, Georgia is the
second most surveiled city in the world
because it's covered in flock cameras.
And it was one of those things of once
you mentioned it, I saw them everywhere.
It's everywhere. That was crazy.
Hey buddy, you know, when you go out
into society, there's no expectation of
privacy is the dumbest [ __ ] argument.
this everything that has come out about
flock cameras is very concerning uh at
the very least and horrifying at the
max. I as you were leaving I found a
story about someone that got uh guns
pulled on them because there was a
misread of a plate. Uh then they were
like it's a stolen car. No it's not. And
so it's like okay there's another
traumatizing situation. How many people
are going to get shot uh because of
this? And that obviously that's just one
example of the big brother [ __ ]
takeover that is being normalized. It's
so weird. This is I I will say I think
this flock cameras and data centers are
a great reach around the aisle possibly
like connect with a person that you've
been disconnected from sort of
situation. You don't agree? You're just
No, no. I'm just I'm reach around the
aisle is a crazy sentence.
Reach across the aisle. Yes. Across the
aisle. Sure. Reaching around the aisle
though.
Maybe the reason it hasn't worked is
because we've been reaching across.
Okay. So, we should reach around and and
that way, you know what, the
Republicans, the deeply closeted
Republicans would agree on us because we
would tell them the flock cameras are
surveilling you as Palanteer is pulling
your Grinder profile, linking it with
your social security number, and then
following you across state lines, buddy.
Uh, some of those Republicans though,
they wouldn't have a problem because
instantly uh crossing state lines for
that isn't an issue for them because the
president will just pardon them. But I
mean, I've even heard things of flock
cameras being used to track women
leaving Texas uh to get an abortion and
they were trying to charge a woman
because her partner ratted on her uh
because of the Texas abortion bounty
laws that I think people forget that are
still out there and are still on the
books and others. Flock cameras have
been a growing concern. And I I I wanted
to talk about them a little bit here
because there really isn't that the
weird thing with them is there isn't one
central thing that has brought them
forward, right? There isn't a there
isn't like a a big event uh that has
been like, "Oh, this thing proves that."
But I think there's a few flash points
that have happened over this last year.
And a big one was the Super Bowl. Do you
remember the Super Bowl this year? You
and I were talking about
the the ring commercial.
Yes, the ring commercial. Actually,
here's what's funny about that Super
Bowl. We were talking about it uh when I
was down at your house and uh we neither
of us could remember who won it. Like we
forgot actually who was in the Super
Bowl because it was that forgettable of
a Super Bowl kind of. But it was the
Seahawks by the way. Congratulations
Seattle. We'll be seeing you in about a
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Great way to prep for uh the crashing
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your stupid football team. Alex, I am
Listen, you want to come talk to me
about how how great the Seattle Seahawks
are? Go Wetbirds. I will tell you in
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if you buy a ticket at crashingout.com.
But Phil, um, that commercial, I think a
lot of people already forgot about it.
It was about there was a Ring camera
commercial that was like, "Hey, you your
dog is missing. Don't worry. Ring is
partnering with Flock and we're gonna
figure out where your dog is and you can
go into this app and then boom. And then
suddenly people are like, "Wait, what do
you mean? My camera that I thought I had
access to is now connected to an AI
panopticon
every always watching network that I'm
paying for." Because here's the thing. I
have I have a Ring Cam. And one of the
things I don't think a lot of people who
don't have them realize is to get access
to your own footage to store your own
footage on Ring. You have to pay for
that. You have to pay for access to your
own footage. But as we've seen with like
the Savannah Guthrie and other things
like they're like, "Oh no, if you don't
pay, we don't save it."
Is that true? That's kind of where we're
kind of sticking here. And there was a
lot of backlash on that ad and then Ring
pulled back and then there was other
things. And Ring is owned by Amazon. So
all of this talks underneath AWS, Amazon
Web Services and there's more and this
was the beginning this plus the the the
growing fears around data centers have
been the beginning of more people
looking and going like what is the end
goal here? What is this for? It's just
the ultimate uh swap of uh privacy for
safety. We were having a conversation
about this, but I think it's like this
the re I think the only reason we might
have more movement against these cameras
compared to other places where people
talk a big game around privacy but
actually do not care that much. Like you
look online,
everyone talks a big game about privacy
online.
85% of people do not actually care if it
makes because it makes their life
convenient whether it be targeted
advertising uh uh other sort of
recommendation systems. Uh but then
there there's an increasing number of
people that go, "Oh, I don't like how
I'm the product. I don't like how there
are all these different services that
know everything about me." And so you
see the rise of I think great services
like Proton Mail. I think you see the
rise of VPNs, especially amid government
crackdowns on what you can even [ __ ]
access. Uh, so I think I think
the the real world of like someone just
peering at you, knowing you, uh, the the
the possibility, whether it be now or in
the future, that they're going to be
able to essentially build these profiles
and know everything about you. That is I
think that's going to be a road too far
for a lot of people. And I think it's
why you're seeing some localities
successfully pushing back against Flock.
But also a big thing is that it's not
just Flock. they are the one they are
the biggest they're they have the name
recognition but there's a lot of people
I I saw what was it um people were
recommending services like what about
Axon and people were like that's same
issues what are you talking about um so
I think I don't know this is this is one
of those those key fights and there
hasn't been a clean landing spot left
versus right I'd say so far but I don't
know do you do you find that uh
I I think I'm it's iffy for me because I
feel like flock is well number one
you're completely correct flock is is
the xerox of this. It's becoming the
brand name of the issue. There are
competitors. Yeah. No, exactly. Advil or
Tylenol versus acetaminophen, right?
There are other things around here.
Flock is the number one and it's the one
that people recognize. There's another
competitor called Leonardo um and and
others. And there's there's there's
things that happen and then on top of
that, there's a lot of misinformation
and disinformation too about what the
capabilities of each of these are. um
inside of Flock itself, they then have
different tiers of what different
cameras can operate and others. For me,
I worry that this is going to end up
very much like the Epstein issue or the
no new wars issue, right? A thing we
seemingly agree on or even Maha, right?
A thing we seemingly agree on, factory
farming is bad. Uh maybe we shouldn't
have as many chemicals in our food. That
turns into uh you should actually be
rubbing a crystal on yourself. You're
like, what the [ __ ] are you talking
about? Wait, hold on. And but the same
thing with Epstein. We need we need a
prosecution about Epstein stuff no
matter where it leads. And then the
right goes ah it led to a place I don't
like anymore so we're instead gonna talk
about trans basketball. Like there's
areas in here, right? The idea like
there's certain things around this of
like what is this? And we're seeing this
I'm seeing a lot of mostly right-wing
influencers. I'm saying mostly because I
haven't seen left-wing influencers or
even liberal or centrist influencers
that are pointing this way. It doesn't
mean they're not out there or it doesn't
mean that the check hasn't hit yet
because we've seen this again with
predictive markets. I've seen this
around content creators and influencers
around um specifically around predictive
markets and crypto and others. If the
check is big enough, you'll see people
move on it a little bit. I've seen
specific
um content creators on the right begin
to come out and go, "If you're not doing
anything wrong, what are you worried
about?"
People need to understand this. Our laws
are so big and complicated and also open
for interpretation that you don't you
might not know you're doing something
wrong, right? And because of that, they
can build a profile on something that
wasn't maybe necessarily wrong or uh or
or illegal, but maybe has the
implication of because the other thing
we're not talking about here is like how
this can be used as a blackmail network
because you can be tracked. Now, before
if I wanted to follow somebody, I had to
get into a [ __ ] car and follow them.
I had to take bathroom breaks. I had to
get coffee. How many of the times did
y'all How many times when you were
watching a movie, one of them propaganda
movies from like the or TV shows from
the '9s, they got to do a steak out and
one of them is the the grizzled old vet
who's been doing steakouts, who's like,
you know, manage your water intake. I
make sure you have enough energy bars
type of stuff. And the other guy's like,
I'm going to drink a monster. And he
keeps getting up having to pee. And it's
a whole thing. And it's a plot line that
doesn't exist when AI is scraping
120,000 cameras because AI doesn't pee.
It does need the water, but it doesn't
pee. Okay. And this is kind of the area
where we're stuck in is is it's it's
that it's um John Henry versus the steel
the steel driving man. The idea of
moving from the handcrafted or it has to
be a person has human capabilities and
human faults to moving into a world of
this is now going to be automated and
robotized and data scraped and
massnetted into mass surveillance. The
other part of it though, it's inside of
that we are now seeing and we keep
hearing these stories over and over
again of police officers and you know uh
chief of polices and captains who have
access to flock using it to stalk people
in their lives because they have this
easy access tool. Well, let me go see is
she cheating on me and they go start
clicking around and following their ex
around or trying to find other things
because the system makes it very very
easy and it's very very tempting. So we
end up in a system where we are we are
handing an incredible power to police
that we cannot trust. And now the debate
is we're we clearly after the last six
years we're not going to reform the
police, right? So should we give them
godlike powers? Maybe not. And this is
kind of I think where the sticking point
is and we don't want to actually
acknowledge that. Does that make sense?
It does. I mean I think the argument uh
is should always be there for pretty
much anything of well what if this tool
falls into the wrong hands. Uh you can
think of it in the sense of like hackers
obviously especially as we're seeing
that pretty much everything is
vulnerable if you have the right hacker
or even apparently autonomous agent that
will figure out a way to to get through
things. Uh whether it be governments uh
how they want to utilize uh these
systems uh to your point certain police
officers. But one of the things that I
found when I was looking in uh looking
into this was like it was there was an
article that on futurism that looked at
like okay so in a place like Atlanta
where you add these does this make it so
that you're solving more crimes does it
make it like are you actually keeping
people safer and one of the things they
found is even though they were adding
more and more flock cam came cameras uh
they used homicide as an example the
clearance rate dropped from 53.4% 4% in
2021 to 48% in 2025 even as flock
cameras were introduced. Uh the uh
clearance rate
real fast. What what's clearance rate
mean?
Right. Actually like solving a crime.
Okay. Right.
So so they're solving less crimes with
them is what you're saying.
Yeah. Somehow uh rape it said rape
remained flat overall at 37.7%. It even
dipped to 21.2% at one point. uh even
voter vehicle theft, which it would be
that seems like the craziest that's the
craziest thing because it seems like
that is that is the initial selling
point for a lot of this outside of uh
you know private business owners going
like hey it's necessary to keep my
private establishment uh safe. So I
think once again like we're going to
have numbers from all over the country
and that's that's going to be
interesting to see. But in general all
I've seen are red flags after red flags.
because you have a CEO that that has
said people that stand against him uh
he's likened to terrorists. Yes, he's
apologized to it, but he in my opinion
that sort of statement and that sort of
apology is uhoh, I scared some people,
right? Uh oh, I want to keep I want my
contracts to keep going.
This is just like the Kevin Oly claiming
that the people that were against his
Utah data center are all Chinese spies
when they actually live. No, I just want
to go back to that because I mean this
this is one of these things where we've
seen this repeatedly now with these CEOs
get the lightest push back. The lightest
push back because in general with flock
what we're seeing a lot of is people
becoming aware that these systems were
approved in their communities without
their knowledge. Um especially if
they're tied to their state and local
government. But in many cases with Flock
I mean I was um our producer pointed me
to Dlock which is a open- source mapping
system where people this is not pulling
from Flock itself. This is people going
around actually being like, "There's a
flock camera here." Do you know what
happens if you go to Dlock, folks?
You're going to discover that there's
about four to six cameras, flock
cameras, in every Home Depot and Lowe's
parking lot. That's just they're and
they're aimed all over that parking lot
because again, there's questions of
whether or not they're tied into ICE.
Are they using this to track people who
they believe are undocumented? There's
areas inside the AI people think, "Oh, I
I'll get a license plate cover." folks,
they know they can track the make, model
of your car. They can track whether or
not your car has dents and scratches on
it, a specific bumper sticker that you
have on there and others. So, unless you
know that there's six other cars exactly
like yours that have a dent in the in
the back left of the bumper in the same
exact spot, it might be pulling in that
sort of way because the AI knows to look
for those things. Mhm.
They've had they've had issues of the
the again the same way when people go in
that the way they do searches now versus
in the past when you would go to Google
or Yahoo and you had to type in
precisely what you want to do. Instead,
it's more of an Ash Jeeves looking for a
car that has a scratch on the driver's
side door. Uh is it's black with 30%
tinted windows. Uh going westbound uh
down this road, we think.
Yeah.
Boom. Here's all of them.
Redhead in a X-Men shirt and guy in the
coolest shirt that's ever existed. Uh
The microphone covered the white Waffle
House. Uh, number one, and for the audio
listeners out there, I did what I did go
I was with Phil in Atlanta as he bought
that Waffle House shirt
and he was he I want you to know he
turned down the place we went was full
of Waffle House shirts. They were like
doing a Waffle House collab and he was
like, "No, just this one."
I I feel like this is this is my third
one. After that, it's a bit it's a bit
much. Two things I got to say. One, uh,
I want to go back to the the motor
vehicle theft. Uh I misread uh actually
clearance rates jumped.3%.
So that is probably a good enough reason
for you to give up all your uh privacy.
Oh, okay. That's fine.
And two, when you mentioned what when
you mentioned uh Mr. Wonderful. Kevin
Olirri. Uh I was thinking why do so many
of these companies the the people that
become the face of them are literally
the worst possible people that like
Kevin Olirri becoming the face of data
centers. Sam Alman uh becoming part of
the the face of AI when every other
thing that comes out of his face is like
the weirdest [ __ ] or like the most
concerning [ __ ] about how it seems like
it's going to destroy everything.
And we're not even going to touch the
sister stuff. Go ahead. Oh, I don't
We're not touching the sister stuff.
Oh, god.
Sam.
Oh,
go ahead.
Wait. I think Okay. Wait. That's it.
We'll leave it there. We'll leave it
there. Legally, we're safe. Go ahead.
No, but that's that's it. It's just the
the the people that shouldn't be talking
about this to to to normalize things for
the normies are out there.
No, they're they're they're idiots. And
the because the thing is is at this
point part of this
Hey, don't you want don't you want this
pod to get bought up like TBPN? What are
you doing? What are you doing?
Well, it's never going to happen, Phil.
Phil, it's never going to happen. I put
out my number out there. I've told the
world I've told every evil billionaire
on Earth. Give me $12.5 million and I go
away and I shut up because I'll just
invest it probably in private prisons or
something. I don't [ __ ] know. It
seems like the that just seems like how
people make uh you know an insane amount
of money these days is just go find the
most evil thing you can find. dump a
[ __ ] ton of money in it and then you
could be Mark Andre because this is
actually one of the things for me that
popped flock besides going and seeing
them in person was last I think it was
last week the free press Barry Weiss who
now runs uh CBS the free press did like
a piece about flock cameras and in that
it like even opens with like if you
haven't done anything wrong you have
nothing to worry about. Well, here's the
thing. People are like, "This is a
really bizarre thing to be claiming that
you're kind of more libertarian or
you're conservative or you believe in
small government, but you're pushing
this mass surveillance big brotheresque
flock camera system." Right. Right.
Yeah.
And so while that's happening,
everybody started looking at and they
go, "Well, who's who also invests in the
free press? Who invests in flock
cameras?" Andre Horowitz,
who was owned by Mark Andre, like the
weird guy with the pointy bald head. The
one who looks like an egg who said that
he has no introspection. The one who has
gone completely MAGA and is like a
complete lunatic. This guy, this guy has
gone insane. And also we're in a world
now where since everything is slowly
being bought up by private equity and
everything has outsized control of now
even we can't even trust the press to be
as open or to look into these things
because the investor in flock is also
the investor in the free press which is
the weird Orwellian name for your state
sanctioned media company that is also
invested in by the guy who owns Tik Tok
right Larry Ellison who also said that
it would be great if we lived in a world
Everyone is under mass surveillance.
It'll be perfect and and peaceful. But
again, who watches the watchmen is the
famous saying, right? Like, who is
actually going to be the one manning
these cameras? Who is going to have
access to these cameras? Who's going to
have freedom of information requests of
these cameras? They're privatelyowned
cameras that are being accessed by the
government, which is the workaround in
some of these privacy areas. On top of
that, the other thing that's driving me
crazy, and and it's just and I know
we're going to go to a break here in a
second, so I just need to say this.
They're called flock cameras. A group of
sheep as a flock.
They're they're flock cameras. They're
treating the people like sheep while
telling us to not be woke. So, Phil, I
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Yeah. I mean, it's just uh massive state
sponsored surveillance with an extra
step. Like that's it.
Yeah. I mean, this is the thing with the
flock cameras in general. I mean, the
one thing I'm seeing a lot of, Phil, I
don't know if you've seen these videos.
Have you seen guys who've been
explaining to people uh how to cut down
a pole that may or may not be connected
to something? Have you seen these?
They're massively popular on
something about uh damaging a flock
camera or anyone damaging a flock
camera. No, I didn't.
Okay. Okay. No, exactly. And that's
I had Your honor, I had stress induced
temporary blindness, your honor.
That's your honor. And I stopped pulling
palunteer to find out exactly what I
looked at, your honor. That's what this
is. Um we're seeing this a lot. There's
been
do not commit crimes is the our line.
Yeah, we
But I didn't see no crimes, your honor.
Yeah, we we we should say that
immediately. Uh immediately. We do not
advocate
anyone. No,
I can't.
You had something in your eye. We do not
advocate.
Why did you You blurred that. Did the
editor blur that? Can't believe it
blurred my whole face. All right, it's
fine. We don't advocate people doing
crimes. Okay, I'm not doing it. All
right. Um, so the the videos that I'm
seeing a lot of though are people like
cutting poles um and talking about and
again they're using these language
through
I've seen that.
That was that wasn't a how-to. But I've
also seen there's been in some small
towns and areas where they have been cut
down like the the cops will show up and
like six of them are cut down
and um you know they people will be
they'll ask the general public does
anyone know? And then all of the comment
sections kind of turn into almost a
Robin Hood thing. Whoever it was, he was
with me that night. These type of things
are happening in there. But I just want
to I want to point to this because I
know that a lot of people think that
this is this is great. It's also
bringing awareness of what these things
are. Sure. But you guys know the next
step then will just be drones. Like it
it there there'll be other areas of it.
The next step will be Whimos. Whimos are
rolling surveillance vehicles. The next
step will be every Tesla in Cybertruck
is covered in [ __ ] cameras. Like
there are going to be other areas of
this. And so the people who think just
taking out the pole, that is not taking
out the actual foundation. And so what I
just want to say what we truly need in
this country is we need an overhaul of
privacy, data privacy in particular, and
having rules, regulations, and laws
around that. And hopefully someday I
can't even finish that [ __ ] sentence.
I just that's that would be the actual
answer. Come on, guys. You thought I was
gonna give you hope? YOU THOUGHT I WAS
gonna give you hope? NO. WHAT AM I?
ZORON mom Donnie. That guy gives you
hope because we're sitting here talking
about government watching people, Phil.
And Zolon is actually watching people
through the internet and fixing things
and it's driving me insane. Have you
seen this stuff?
Yeah. I like the uh the guy is seeing a
pothole in the morning and then by
afternoon he's like, "Oh, okay. I'm
done. Got it."
Oh, we need your help. Look
like game. Why is there a whole hole in
the road, gang?
Look what happened after I come back
from work.
What?
Yeah, it's it's been crazy. There's been
so many of these and then Zoron himself
leaning into it. You know, I've talked
to people with the pothole thing because
as after Zoron uh got inaugurated as
mayor, it was like in the weeks uh after
weeks and months afterward, they kept
posting these images of like 100,000
potholes filled and these I've talked to
people inside of uh government and
they're like, "Here's the one that's
crazy. We haven't filled in more
potholes than anyone else. like every
this is like this is standard ple but
we're telling people we're doing it in a
way that is accessible to them and we're
also create that and by we zoramani and
his administration is doing this in a
way that people then it it you know a
win and a success begets wins and
successes. He started on the right foot
with this. So now that we're in this
this area where that guy was walking by
mom Donnie, look at this pothole. Mom
Donnie and by that afternoon it being
filled and that guy posting about it
like that is that's starting to add into
more. I've seen more and more of these
where there was Did you see the guy who
pointed and goes, "Mom, Donnie, this is
a big issue. That's where my boyfriend's
supposed to be. I'm supposed to have a
man there."
Zoron, I need you to fix this
immediately. I'm in Brooklyn. This is
Eastern Parkway. Something's missing.
It's supposed to be a man. Specifically,
my man. I am supposed to be on a date
with my man at the Brooklyn Museum, but
he does not exist. Zoron, what are you
gonna do to fix this issue?
And Manny took it, put it on his
stories, and then went, "Here's areas
where you can meet up with other people
at different events for the summer all
across New York. It's this. It's smart
marketing. It's good in that ways. The
the idea of people feeling like they can
connect because I gotta tell you
something, Phil. M I'm going to I'm
actually going to share a picture with
you real fast and we can we can put it
up uh on the on the show as well so the
people who are watching us on Spotify or
on YouTube can see this as well. I want
to just show you something Phil. I just
texted you a picture. So go ahead and I
want you to take a look at that.
What the hell is this?
What do you think you're looking at
right now?
Is that supposed to be a great What is
that?
That's a storm drain, Phil.
Uhhuh. That's a storm drain that uh it's
been broken about about a sixth of the
storm drain has been broken and so it's
tipped the storm drain cover is tipped
into the hole itself. Um and there's a
road cone that's kind of propping it up
a little bit and the road cone has it's
been there for so long the grass is
growing out of the top of it. I'm saying
this because that has been um in front
of my house for three [ __ ] years,
Phil. Three years.
I like you know how that storm drain
Hold ON. HOLD ON. YOU KNOW HOW THAT
BROKE? a [ __ ] city garbage truck
drove over it.
I have spoken to my city council people.
I've spoken to my [ __ ] in person, my
city supervisor. We've filled out the
forms. We've made the [ __ ] phone
calls. I've gone to the meetings. I've
met these people. I know them. I've
talked to them. I've pointed at them.
And you know what happened? Every single
person said, "Oh, I moved I passed it
along to the right department. I passed
it along. I PASSED IT ALONG." NO,
[ __ ] This is where we are. This
is why what Zoron's doing is so
incredible because he's bringing back
something that we used to have in this
country. The idea of the buck stopping
somewhere. At some point, somebody in
this [ __ ] company, in this
government, in our country WILL SAY IT
STOPS HERE. NO FURTHER TO QUOTE JOHN
Luke Bard in First Contact. But it has
to somebody has to take [ __ ]
ownership of it.
And so this is where we've ended up. And
we've ended up this way in government,
in our [ __ ] businesses, in every step
of life. It's been everyone else saying
it's someone else's [ __ ] problem over
and over and over again. I was talking
to my wife. I was like, "I can't believe
it's been two years." She goes, "It's
been three." Cuz we had to check. We
went into her phone AND WENT BACK. THAT
ROAD CONE, by the way, is was not put
there by the city. That road cone was
put THERE BY ME, PHIL. THAT'S A road
cone that I found in the streets of
Philadelphia years ago and brought
inside to save a parking spot. Now, for
three years, it's been propping up a
[ __ ] storm drake. And this is what's
driving people insane. They're watching
the people of New York during their New
York summer enjoy pointing at holes and
their government actually responding to
it and they're shocked by this. This is
a novelty into our country. The idea
that our government that we pay taxes
to, that we are that we vote for, that
we are supposed to listen to, that is
supposed to be monitoring us with flock
cameras and telling us when we do things
wrong. The idea that us being like, hey,
you know, that thing's broken there. And
they go, "Oh, okay. I got it. Fix."
That's crazy to us. That's getting 2.5
million likes on [ __ ] Tik Tok. It's
getting shared everywhere. There's
articles being WRITTEN ABOUT THE
GOVERNMENT OF NEW York fixing the
problems of the people of New York ON
PUBLIC INFRASTRUCTURE. THAT IS NOT NEWS.
THAT IS IF THAT IS NEWS, YOU LIVE IN A
BROKEN [ __ ] SOCIETY.
WELL, ALEX, I think we do. I think I
think we do. Uh, few things to add here.
One, your cone reminds me of those
things from Super Mario Sunshine. It's
giving me those vibes. too.
Uh I will say uh Mandani I think there
are a lot of places that uh
want you to come around if just for
I want I want to rent a Mundan. I just
want to rent him. I I just need him for
6 months. I just want him to come to my
small Pennsylvania monthly. That's what
we call.
Yeah. Just just come on down. I want six
months of Mundan in my I know some
people are saying, "Well, you got to do
it." I like, "Motherfucker, I Here's the
thing. Years ago, I had a somebody I was
talk talking about getting into politics
and he looked me dead in the face. He
said, "You can't pretend to care about a
pothole." And I'm like, "You're right."
He's like, "You're a big picture guy.
When it comes to local politics, you
have to absolutely care about those
potholes. You're a guy that they that
like you should rally around someone
who's going to be in the job that one
day they're going to have to be like
distance themselves from you."
Yes. No. John the Baptist. I'm will I'm
willing to be a Baptist for, you know,
John the Baptist for a candidate.
Unfortunately, the last time I did that
a while ago, he that candidate then had
a stroke and his name is now John
Federman. Uh
man, hey,
pour one out for the homie. What if I
just poured my drink on my laptop?
Well, one of the one of the things with
Mannia though, I mean, when you're
talking about like what people talking
about like we're actually doing around
like the same level. One, I don't know
how accurate that is, but two, this is I
think a part of like you always have to
keep campaigning even after you get the
job. uh because and this has been a
really big shortcoming of a lot of
politicians, but especially uh people on
the left of just not being like and this
is what we did, this is what we
accomplished. This is what we're doing.
Uh even when you pass something that is
going to better things in 10 years, you
never get to claim it. Uh and then some
[ __ ] that probably voted against it 10
years from now is going to claim like,
hey, look at what we did. like we saw a
lot a lot of people uh celebrating
infrastructure uh like uh benefits for
their for their communities when they
actively voted against it years prior,
right? Uh and so I think uh you know
it's just always communication. Look at
Trump. He takes credit for stuff that's
not even happening.
Like it's like just
do it with real [ __ ]
He well because usually he's just waking
up and saying yes cuz that's been one
big issue Trump's been having is he's
literally falling asleep in meetings and
then we Yeah. No, it was great. I wasn't
I wasn't in the falafel cart. Shut up.
I was talking about this this morning.
How How have we How have we become so
numb? This [ __ ] just looks out
and I was like, "Oh, is it is it a is it
just like was he blinking? Was he just
taking like a long blink and it's like,
oh, that's a I thought I thought it was
a forever blink.
No, that's that's an elderly sleeping
man. I know this because I listen, I've
seen the same exact thing when Pup comes
over and I got Paw Patrol running 90
minutes in and my 2 and 1/2year-old's
running around the floor and I look over
at him and he's [ __ ] like that. Like,
that's fine. But guess what? My kid's
grandpa is 25 years younger than the
president of the United States. Okay,
that's crazy. He's a quarter of a
century younger than the president of
the United States. And he has a day job.
He has a he's a physically demanding day
job. He's allowed to long blink on a
Saturday.
It's not. And by the way, we're talking
about on the weekend after working a
physically demanding job playing with a
toddler. All Trump had to do was sit
next to [ __ ] RFK as they yapped about
vaccines the size of Dr. Peppers being
shoved in babies, which isn't true, by
the way. I had my kid get all of his
[ __ ] vaccines. It wasn't that many.
It's not crazy. These people are dumb.
But real fast, back to this this thing.
The reason why people are like, "What
what can we do?" Right now, under our
current government, under all the legal
things that we have set up,
what could we do to change it?
We have to vote and make sure that we
get a Democratic House who can then
maybe impeach him to then send it to
probably a Republican Senate. Like,
there's certain steps on I'm saying like
legally of like how would we change it
to this? The media clearly doesn't give
a [ __ ] because we're we've been we're
we're almost six months into a war he
said he was never gonna [ __ ] start.
We're like two weeks away from oil
reserves completely running out and
everything going [ __ ] sideways. We
have inflation out our [ __ ] ass.
Jobs, all the good jobs have vanished
and they're being replaced with just
sponging old people like the president.
But when Joe Biden was president, I had
to hear about every different types of
way he took a weird walk. Every time his
dentures slipped, I had to hear about
this [ __ ] over and over again. This
dude's out here not even know where the
[ __ ] he is half the time, [ __ ]
himself during funerals. And then we all
got to pretend it's [ __ ] normal. Now
I got to look at my kid and be like,
"Hey, it'll be fine. It's all going to
clean up. Maybe they'll maybe they'll
pull out Obama, too."
Well, I think so. Yes. Yes. Vote for,
you know, your House,
but also like it does start at a a very
local level. I mean, even obviously, you
know, you one of the things you did when
you were in Georgia is you helped uh
rally some canvasers with us uh uh for
for you know, a district house seat.
Very important. But, you know, like city
council
while surrounded by flock cameras, by
the way. Well, surrounded by flock
cameras. Weirdly,
there were a few things there were a few
things where once that became a topic of
conversation, people going, "Oh, there's
literally two or three right around us
right now."
It was so weird. It was so weird.
Oh, good. It's It's staring right at my
children on this playground. Cool.
Yeah, it was bizarre. But one of the
things I I will say uh was interesting
as far as people paying attention to
politicians was uh I think you saw this
the the the weird freakout around AOC,
right? Still, right? Like it started
when she shared a video where I guess
she's freezing her eggs. Um, and um, I
think you know she's talked about this
to some degree even in the past of like
the the prospect of it, but man, you had
you had like I don't know what it is
about these like
masculinity laring [ __ ] like Matt
Walsh just having way too many opinions
about women doing [ __ ] with their own
bodies to the point that even even a
number of women on the right were like,
"Yo, chill the [ __ ] out. He uh, I don't
know, Matt Walsh. He's daily wise.
We've tal Wait, weirdly. Okay, so
weirdly, we talk about Matt Walsh, I
think, more than most people because
he's so goddamn annoying and I think
he's targeted at our age group. I
honestly believe this. I do because
we've mentioned him, I think, on the
last couple podcasts around trans
issues. He's the guy with the beard.
Throw up the picture of him pre-beard.
Thank you. Gross. Go ahead. Matt Walsh,
of course, had a weird thing to say
about a woman in birth.
He said she'll turn 37 in a couple of
months. If she got pregnant now, it
would technically be a geriatric
pregnancy. Instead, she's freezing her
eggs. This desire to start having
children late in life is completely
baffling to me. I'll have kids in their
20s by the time I turn 50. AOC
apparently wants to have a toddler at
that age. Totally backwards and
ridiculous. Matt, it was a [ __ ]
weekend. Why weren't you hanging out
with your wife or your six [ __ ] kids?
You weird weird loser. And like I need
people to understand these like, yes,
they rally uh a weird type of loser
around them, but they're just so sad.
They're so sad. There's nothing there.
It's an empty sad shell of a person that
thinks that they have some sort of thing
because they're able to like rally this
uh misogyny [ __ ] group alto together
and they get to be the center of it.
Here's what's crazy is like can I tell
you what happened when I saw uh the AOC
cuz she did a couple like she talked
about it and then she also made a video
and actually the video I think it was on
her Instagram stories or one of those
things. She goes, "I'm freezing my
eggs." And then she did the the tummy
the tummy shot. And she literally said,
"Don't make it weird.
You're going to make it weird." And then
she did it. And then they did. Everyone
made it [ __ ] weird. Everyone made it
weird. Benny Johnson made the most odd
the oddest [ __ ] AI thumbnail I've
ever [ __ ] seen in my life.
And then Yeah. And a few other people
started like they all started coming up
with all this crazy [ __ ] You know, you
know what my reaction was when I saw
that she was freezing her eggs? I went,
"What do you mean there's a shot?" Cuz I
didn't We didn't do egg freezing. I
didn't know there was a shot. I actually
learned something. She did what we kind
of want people to do, especially when it
comes to medicine. Show us how it works
so then we can make a decision
ourselves. As for the whole thing of,
oh, she'll turn 37 in a couple months.
Cool. I have my kid at 39. My wife and I
were 39 when we had our son. Like here's
the one thing, the difference angle on
this is I tell people if they're
thinking if they're they actually are
thinking about having kids, I don't want
to turn this completely into a daddy
section, but if they are thinking about
having kids, I I do recommend if you are
in the right place financially and
emotionally to probably pull the trigger
a little sooner because as my kid's
getting faster, I'm getting slower now
because I'm a little older and I don't
have the energy to both hit the gym and
chase him into traffic. Like that's kind
of those are small things. There's ways
around that though. Uh, we got a fence
for our our front porch. That was a
thing. We were like, "Oh, when we're
trying to lock the door, he takes off
running towards the road. Put a fence
up." OH, NOW HE'S HE'S ON THE GATE. HE'S
LIKE, "AH, I WANT TO GET TO THE SCHOOL
BUS.
Trying to get to the mines, dude."
Well, actually, what I have is again, we
have again massive hole in my sidewalk
directly in front of my house. But they
also have been doing construction on
some roads near me. So basically for the
last year, every day an excavator, a
steamroller, a bulldozer, and other
amazingly yellow painted construction
equipment drives past my probably
right-leaning MAGA conservative son
who's super into construction farm
equipment and football at two. It could
change. You never know. But these
[ __ ] people got so weird about her
and this decision. I saw so many things
like talking about like her fiance and
other decisions that were being made in
their lives and all this stuff. I'm
like, "No, [ __ ] off." Like honestly,
[ __ ] off. Because if she was to be
pregnant right now, you know what
happened? They would tell her that she
was being greedy for and that she should
drop out because she's pregnant. If
anything was to happen uh during that
pregnancy, there's going to be a bunch
of [ __ ] about it. Every single [ __ ]
decision she makes is highly targeted by
the especially on the right, especially
by Fox News. They talk about her they
talk about her actually more than
Hassan, but not as much as the WNBA. I
saw some stats about this because right
now Fox News is the WNBA network. But on
top of that, there's also these like
weird things from like the far left that
are still targeting her because they'll
scream that she's a sheep dog that is
trying to keep people from getting away
from the Democratic party. And so
there's just like [ __ ] and dumb
stuff about all of this. If you have the
ability to to freeze your eggs and
that's a way you want to go down and
you've spoken with your doctor about it,
great. I'm happy for you. It's awesome.
I did not know that it's like a month
worth of shots to do specific things.
I don't know. I don't know what I
thought. I I thought maybe they just go
into an office, they put their feet up
in a stirrups, and a guy comes in with
like a Luigi's Mansion vacuum. I don't I
don't know. I don't know.
I don't know. I'm that it's these are
things that I've learned because again,
we don't teach women's health in this
country to men. So, we are left with a
lot of assumptions. I'll never forget
like witnessing a C-section. I went,
"Oh, I thought you just pulled the baby
out." And then they pulled out her
entire, you know, intestines and stomach
and every put it on a table next to her,
pulled a baby out and stuffed them back
in and zipped it up. Like, that shit's
crazy, you know? Like, these are the
type of things. And so, again, this is I
think it's good. One, I think it's good
that we're having this conversation so
more people can understand it because
two, this also then breaks uh the
alliance of women to a degree, women on
the right with conservative men who do
not understand things like egg freezing,
IVF. They do not understand non-viable
pregnancies, right, and other things
that could happen around this because
all they want to do is ban everything
that doesn't fit into the Little House
on the Prairie episode that they watched
in 1972.
Yeah, I think yeah, Matt Walsh's take
here I think is important because there
is a portion of the Republican party,
there is a portion of the right that has
this opinion hardcore, right? And I
think it is important to look at it and
highlight it especially because right
you even have Trump I think and and the
White House would be trying to distance
themselves from this because they've
tried to make him look more like a pro
IVF president, right? more about like
building families and even people like
Matt Walsh their their normal thing is
like we need to have more families and
but once again it's like mask comes off
here because it's like but uh in the way
that I want it's not about you woman
right that's like that's very much the
the Matt Walsh thing and it goes into
against once again like the the fake
machismo thing if when you look at him
that is a very
thoughtout look to to just hide how
little and insecure that man is
that is a that Matt Walsh is a Redditor
that got kicked out of a Spencer's gifts
and then decided to go across to an LL
Bean and put on a plaid shirt and then
finally figured out how to dye a beard
dark enough and then put on some thick
enough glasses to make you wonder if
he's going to uh go not shut the [ __ ] up
about an IPA.
Um, real real fast, the one thing I will
say going back into what you were saying
about the the more families and babies
and all this stuff. Yeah,
Matt believes he's I'm going to infer
this. I don't know it directly, but a
lot of them infer this. They believe
that if we have families, especially big
families, that will make us
conservative. That's their view. If we
have families, then we are going because
again, or you will be so financially
stuck that you will you won't be able to
have the which is partially true. You
won't have to be able to have the energy
for activism, for uh for social stuff.
No, but other things because you know
right now I have a toddler. Like for me
to go down
I'm sorry. I met so many former
Republicans this weekend. It seems like
the fastest way to become a liberal is
to be born into a Republican family.
I baby I mean that is definitely that's
definitely true. I mean most a lot of
libs are are that way especially
liberals. Um but and a lot of leftists
as well a lot of leftists who I meet
when I talk to them especially
in accurately using it as a catch-all
term for anyone. Well yeah which I know
is not the case because
I'm a little bit more Yeah. No, but
that's the thing. I'm a little bit more
politically online than you when it
comes to this specific type of nuance.
And this is the thing that drives me
crazy is because I'll see somebody who
will be like an online communist from
London being like, I hate liberals and
then a bunch of MAGA people retweeting
it and then being like, no, I hate you
more. And like they can't understand
that in America liberal is a catch-all
term for anybody that isn't MAGA. Uh
from the right
maybe for the normies. Yeah. I was like,
yeah, I'm saying for the normies.
I'm more normies.
Yeah. Yeah. No, you are 100%. I I walked
around your house. I was like very
normal. Oh wow.
Very normal.
This You said that in a mean way.
I did. I did. And then I made you watch
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What's that smell? What does it smell
like?
It smells like a dead rat being uh
cooked in the sun enough to wake up a
Twitch streamer.
This Okay, so this is your transition.
Uh Alex wants to talk about Asmin Gold,
I think.
Oh, I don't want to talk about Asmin
Gold, but I am I am prepared to talk
about Asmin Gold.
No, it's a scented candle. Oh, no. IT'S
SOY SCENTED. OH, NO. PHILY, it's a soy
candle.
You soy boy. I'm being feminized by
scent while Asmin Gold is being
radicalized by the living mold from JK
Rowling's castle.
Oh god. I I with this guy specifically,
it's one of those things where I'm like,
am I getting sometimes I have to go and
watch the the the longer content because
I'm like, am I getting some like weird
algo fed thing where I'm like, it's just
this man being a weird crazy insane
person. Um, like I I'll see I think one
of the the clips I saw a while ago was
I'm paraphrasing essentially like him
kind of like loving and getting off on
the idea of him being a funnel uh for
for seem like young men to be to go like
further down the the alt-right
right-wing uh extreme right pipeline to
like a Nick Fuentes type or something
like that. But even like even that is
kind of crazy to me because if you
search for for Nick Fuentes, if you
search for currently incarcerated Andrew
Tate, you can find plenty of clips about
like them talking about trying to better
yourself or like talking about positive
things. But every clip I've seen from
Aspen is just like him hating. And this
most recent clip, which it looks like is
the reason he just got a two-week, you
say ban, but it's a Twitch ban, so it's
really just a suspension, a little
vacation break, was him talking about
gunning down and endorsing killing
migrant children uh along with uh the
other men and women.
Always this this is emotional blackmail,
right? Well, you can't shoot these
people. They have kids with them. Well,
then don't bring your kids. If you don't
want to get shot, then don't bring your
[ __ ] kids. It's really simple.
You mean you'd shoot adults and deport
the kids, right? Well, I'd shoot
whoever.
Yeah, I'd shoot whoever. I mean, if it's
kids, women, uh, men, anybody, just
shoot them. They're going to stop coming
over
because if you don't do that, they'll
use children and women as shields to get
themselves over. And then they'll put
more women and children at risk because
they know that they can use them as
collateral so they can get more of
themselves over. That's the way it
works. That's the way an animal thinks.
And these people are animals.
It's just the way it is.
They're savages. Absolute [ __ ]
savages. Hamas tactics. Yeah.
Terrorists.
Of course you don't want to do that.
Doesn't mean you want to do it, but you
have to do what you need to do in order
to enforce your borders, man. Like
that's the way it is. People are too
emotional to see that. Yeah. I mean,
like again, like it it's you don't you
you you can't make decisions that way.
And I understand the way that I talk
about this might be a little bit
extreme. It might be a little bit um you
know, unemotional. I wish we had more
people like me.
I do. I wish we had more because we got
too many [ __ ] that are too worried
about the optics of something rather
than the reality of it.
If you're not with them, Alex, you're
just a [ __ ] that's worried about the
optics.
This is [ __ ] insane. First thing for
those of you guys to give a little bit
of context uh of what he's talking
about, Asmin Gold, whose real name is
Zach, by the way, this is a man named
Zach saying that we that uh border
guards should shoot women and children.
Uh Zach is talking about um Morocco and
Spain. That's what that's what was the
triggering event for this was the 60,000
migrants uh showing up to cross over
into the Spanish enclaves that exist on
the African continent on the other side
of the Mediterranean.
And most of them were sent back. Uh
Spain has some laws about when children
are presented about making sure that
they uh get special care. But the men
were sent back and most of the women
were sent back as well. People did die,
by the way, just to to Zach. Zack,
people did die. They they were trying to
cross over in the water and many of them
drowned or got crowdcrushed.
This was what he's talking about, by the
way, is a weird combination of things of
one, this is a a semi normal thing that
happens between Morocco and Spain. It's
weaponization of migrants that has been
done by authoritarian governments over
and over again. The United States
government may have been involved with
this and others tied in through Moroccan
security systems. There's a lot that
happened there. But what Zach saw was he
saw brown people and he said that they
should be killed. And then Twitch said
we probably can't run ads with that.
That's why that's why he got banned.
That's that's that's the reason why he's
suspended. I want to be clear about
this. And for people who don't know, I
know a lot of our listeners I've looked
over our analytics a lot of times. I
know we have a lot of uh people who are
in their uh mid30s and and 40s. They
don't know who the [ __ ] this guy is.
This is a Twitch streamer who became
famous because he played World of
Warcraft.
That's why he's famous. Just so you guys
know, he has a following. His base began
because he played WORLD OF WARCRAFT.
LEROY Jenkins
without World of Warcraft. And from what
I've been told from friends of mine who
play World of Warcraft, he was very good
at that. M.
But this is a man who literally lives in
filth. He literally is covered in
[ __ ] cockroaches. There is footage of
him taking a sip of water and then
having to chase it with Coca-Cola
because the rotting teeth in his head
make water taste bad. And this man has
decisions on who or who not should be
allowed to cross a border without
getting a bullet put through their
[ __ ] skull. He's also at this point
probably one of the larger con
conservative content creators. He's been
backed by Elon Musk.
He's been repeatedly being backed by
Elon Musk a couple years ago on Twitter
until Elon Musk got outed as a fake
gamer because that was too far. Shooting
people in the head not too far for the
Asmin Gold crowd. But being a FAKE
GAMER, HOW DARE YOU? This is where this
is kind of where we're getting trapped
in these things is he is sitting in his
radicalization box making millions of
dollars a year saying this [ __ ] over and
over and over again. And the only thing
that's ever gotten to him that's
actually broken through his brain was
Stavi saying that this guy doesn't get
[ __ ] So then he showed up with a fake
girlfriend a couple weeks ago.
I'm going to that's that's in my opinion
that's not a real girlfriend.
That's not a real girlfriend. This is
that's a bizarre look. That's a warning
to women that if you are gonna just go
all in on having a man support you,
that's the type of [ __ ] man that will
support you. A man that is literally
having cockroaches have crawled across
him on stream. A man who has said
there's a 70% chance of a dead animal
being somewhere in his house. I don't
know about y'all, I HAVE A 100% chance
that there are no dead animals in my
house. 100%.
He doesn't clean. He's a dirt ball. his
[ __ ] whole worldview is he's he is if
Oscar the Grouch wasn't [ __ ]
huggable.
That's what we're dealing with. And
instead of your kids learning from Oscar
the Grouch, they're learning from this
guy. And I'm I'm going to tell you now,
if you do have kids, especially if
they're around the age of between 10 and
14, there's a likelihood that they've
come across this guy's clips. He has
spent a long time, especially during
reaction gate and others, saying to
people repeatedly that he wants to be
the top search result. He watches the
clips and then puts it up on YouTube to
work as a gateway. And then what he's
doing, the way the reason you're
listening to the clip of the one we just
listened, why it's stilted to people who
have not watched Twitch or a kick
streamer or others, it's because he's
reacting to a live scrolling chat that
is happening on there.
And so it's a feedback loop. He's
radicalizing his chat and his chat is
radicalizing him and he's getting
monetarily supported by all of these
platforms
because again in between this they'll
run a tide ad. That's where we are. Just
keep that in mind because this is
insanity of what he's saying because
he's advocating for future soldiers,
maybe for future border guards to go
above and beyond. And then and not even
women and children being like that is a
thing from the 1800s. Like that's
actually a throwback.
Yeah. Yeah, he he'll he's the he's the
kind of dude that'll bounce between
shoot the women and children to we have
to protect the women, we have to think
about uh the children. Uh and then I
also think that I I got I got a little
crap. I think a lot of people understood
that how big of an audience this guy has
because people are like they're like how
is this how is the internet divided on
this? I was like literally look
literally look he's cultivated this
audience. He's groomed this audience to
go along with them. And then you do get
into the the feedback loop of like the
Well, the only thing the only thing he
can groom is an audience. He won't groom
himself.
You know what? With the with the
internet, maybe we should be glad.
That's where that's where he ends with
that.
I'm just saying, listen, I I brought in
plenty of air fresheners and others to
make sure that I don't have to [ __ ]
smell this guy through my screen.
But this is also part of this is also
part and parcel with Elon. M
Elon's takeover roots to up Twitter has
made this in this sort of way. And the
thing is is also is the way the
algorithms work of dividing and
splitting. So again the fact be Phil if
you and I weren't so in internet culture
in general we probably wouldn't know who
this guy is. I guarantee you right now
the way the right has been going after
the right and some centrists have been
going after Hassan especially post Abdul
El winning that that the left could be
doing the same thing about Asmin Gold
like there is there's things in there he
would have to leave his house though he
would have to leave his house would be
one of the issues as would have to leave
and go start doing public events but
like that's a different part of it you
know raising money or doing phone banks
or others I don't want to give them
ideas Yeah, but that was one of the
things that uh you had Elon and others
in this this kind of camp saying is that
actually there is a double standard uh
and that people like Asmin are being uh
persecuted whereas uh Hassan is actually
getting away with things that are
equally bad or even worse is like part
of the part of their narrative.
Okay. And then they can run to kick.
So that was that was the thing when I
saw when I saw this happening and people
were like talking about the ban which
once again is not a ban. It is a two
week suspension. And if you if you kind
of are used to the the Twitch ecosystem,
all that ever happens is well, two
things can happen, but one of the main
things that happens is they come back
from the break and they usually have
their biggest stream ever.
Um, and it's one of their biggest
monetary gains. It's one of the biggest
audience gains. Uh, or uh this does
serve as like an ad to uh I think he's
already on kick. I'd have to double
check. Once again, it's like I feel like
everything that I learn about this guy
is against my will. Um, and but it's a a
big part of like the the pop culture
conversation of a number of these
moments. Uh, but like it sound it felt
like uh an audition tape to get some
sort of crazy Rumble deal or a renewal
on a kick sort of deal because you know
they'll they
it's not it it's it's it's freedom of
speech. It's not uh you know calling for
the uh indiscriminate murder of uh women
and children. Guys,
yeah,
guys.
I mean that's this is this is what we're
getting down to though. Let me also just
so I could make my opinion clear because
on the PDS, you know, I try and just be
like this is the news, you know, 90 90%
of the time. This is this is this was
psychotic. This is this is psychotic
stuff from a person that it what to your
point it it's like it's just hyper
internet do not go outside sort of
disconnected from humanity and like
people existing [ __ ]
It's it's it's also part of it's it's
part of the idea of NPCs, Phil. Mh. It's
part of the idea of he's viewing
everything as a video game. And how
would you play if I was playing
Civilization,
right? Or if I was playing Mountain
Blade Banner Lord, if I was playing one
of these games where I'm not viewing
them as human beings who were just like
me.
Yeah.
Who if I prick them, will they bleed?
Are they not made of flesh? Are they not
beings with souls? He doesn't view any
of that. They're nothing. to him, to
Asminold, and to his followers and
supporters when they look at the screen.
Do you know what they see? They see
pixels
the same way they see pixels when they
play Call of Duty or Fortnite or any
other [ __ ] game. And I'm not here to
say that video games are bad. I'm saying
that there is a there's a culture that
you can put around it where you can say
that the video game is equal to real
life. And inside of that, you can remove
the humanity of anyone that isn't you.
the the classic ideas around philosophy,
I think, therefore I am, has been turned
around into I'm the only one I know who
thinks, therefore it doesn't matter what
the [ __ ] happens to anyone else. And
guys like Asmin, guys like Donald Trump,
GUYS LIKE ELON MUSK, GUYS like Larry
Ellison, guys like Mark Andre and so
many more, Benjamin Netanyahu, all of
them. They view anyone that isn't them
or part of their group as not people,
not deserving not just of rights, but of
life. AND IF THAT ISN'T ALIGN, then
where the [ __ ] are we? You know, there's
been a lot of talk about woke one versus
woke two and what there's a left versus
the right and what these [ __ ]
platforms are. Which one is advocating
death?
Which one is advocating a future? Which
one is advocating that you be put into a
box surrounded by cameras as you watch
your world [ __ ] burn around you and
if you speak up against it that you
should be shot in the [ __ ] head.
Which one is doing that? BECAUSE THAT IS
ONLY COMING FROM ONE [ __ ] DIRECTION.
AND IT'S BEEN THIS WAY OVER and over and
over again. And I don't want to fight
them. I WANT THEM TO STOP VIEWING THE
WORLD THAT WAY. I WANT THEM TO GO
OUTSIDE, MEET AN ACTUAL girlfriend who
likes them for who they are. Meet people
who want to talk to them. GIVE THEM A
HUG.
Have a drink. Share a meal with them.
Feel the sun on your face. Hear the
waves crash into the [ __ ] beach. Look
at the ocean. AND [ __ ] WONDER WHILE
staring at the Milky Way galaxy how we
are all smaller than the ants that are
infesting Asmin Gold's [ __ ] bedroom.
And is GOD IF IF GOD IS LIKE ASMIN GOLD,
then we're all [ __ ] because he's just
moving us around like he's playing black
and white on an old PC years ago and
dragging people into the ocean and just
dropping them because he's annoyed they
didn't build a building in an area where
he would actually maximize the amount of
money that he can make to go to the NEXT
[ __ ] LEVEL. BUT GUESS WHAT, BUD? THE
NEXT LEVEL FOR you is not going to be
fun or joyful because you MAKE MORE
MONEY. ZACH makes more money than most
people can [ __ ] imagine. I've seen
him go on and complain about how much he
spent in [ __ ] taxes. He's like, "I
HAD TO SPEND SO MUCH MONEY. I HAD TO
GIVE SO MUCH MONEY IN TAXES. THAT'S
CRAZY." YOU KNOW WHAT MY THOUGHT IS? YOU
HAD THAT MUCH MONEY TO GIVE TO taxes and
YOU LIVE THERE SURROUNDED BY YOUR OWN
[ __ ] AND FILTH. AND THE ONLY thing
that's ever [ __ ] AFFECTED YOU IS A
FAT GREEK SAYING YOU GET NO [ __ ]
THAT'S THE ONLY THING YOU'VE EVER
REACTED TO. That and Twitch being like,
"Take two weeks off. TAKE TWO [ __ ]
WEEKS OFF. MAYBE GO FIND A DEAD squirrel
in your addict. [ __ ] HE'S ADDICTED.
HE'S ADDICTED TO THIS. And the thing is
is he's pulling in more people in his
[ __ ] addiction. And someday maybe
he'll pivot and try to shake sh to
switch it up because the numbers change.
But he just wants to be [ __ ] smog. He
just wants to be a dragon sitting on his
hoorde of wealth. And he doesn't care
who it [ __ ] hurts. And he is he is a
symptom of what our culture is turning
into. a culture that is that is
monetized hatred and and [ __ ] anger
and rage in a way that is it's feeding
back into itself. My rage and my anger
comes from the fact that we were
promised a better world and we should
have a better world and it's so easy to
[ __ ] do if someone would just pick up
the [ __ ] phone, answer two goddamn
emails, AND ACTUALLY STEP OUTSIDE and
[ __ ] take ownership of it. He wants
to sit there and go, "No, just like the
Ben Shapiro Jonathan Major movie. No,
they're going to try to invade through
our white woman wombs. It's [ __ ]
weirdo cuck [ __ ] GO OUTSIDE, GET A HUG.
GET A HUG FROM SOMEONE WHO ISN'T
MONETARILY DEPENDENT. THAT'S MY
CHALLENGE. ASTHMA GOLD, THIS IS MY
CHALLENGE. I CHALLENGE YOU TO BE HUGGED
BY SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T [ __ ] KNOW WHO
YOU ARE AND HAVE THEM LOOK INTO YOUR
EYES AND SAY THAT THEY APPRECIATE YOU.
AND YOU AREN'T ALLOWED TO ASK FOR THE
HUG OR TELL THEM TO SAY THAT SENTENCE.
THAT IS MY CHALLENGE TO YOU, SIR.
COMPLETE THAT BEFORE THE END OF YOUR
LIFE. YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO DO IT BECAUSE
LIFE ISN'T A VIDEO GAME. IT'S A SERIES
OF CHAOTIC DEVELOPMENTS AND [ __ ]
MOMENTS THAT ARE DESIGNED AND BY
NOTHING. IT'S DESIGNED BY CHAOS. IT'S
JUST PEOPLE TRYING TO [ __ ] EXIST AND
YOU DON'T EXIST. YOU REACT. YOU'RE NOT
EVEN A prime mover.
Stinky [ __ ]
I think that
I know he's going to [ __ ] watch that.
I [ __ ] know he's going to watch it.
So now I got to wipe myself down with a
[ __ ] disinfectant cloth just knowing
I'm about to be mined by Asmin Gold's
stupid goddamn hairline.
There. Do you remember the movie? There
was a movie years ago with John Candy uh
where he he has a he goes into a coma.
He's a soap opera writer and he goes
into a coma and uh he wakes up in the
soap opera he was in. And one of the
ways they would write off characters was
by giving them brain cancer. And there's
this guy in it that they just keep
making his life worse and worse and
worse. And like his hairline goes and
he's got like gangly. Ah, he's all
[ __ ] up. And every time I see Asmin,
that's what I think of. I think of that
[ __ ] character. I hope the editor can
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I was like, "Oh, okay. It's good that
we're going to talk about this cuz I
didn't share my opinion. I can't add
anything. I can't add anything to what
you said. So, I think that how we should
uh close out today's show is with
something lighter
to bring it back down. I think one of
your new favorite uh segments, and that
is Dad Yap. There's no song, but I'm
making one right now.
Oh, man. I think I think we're going to
have to convince the editor to write us
a cool Dad Yap uh a Dad Yap theme song
and then give us some cool graphics.
We'll work on that in the future because
Phil Phil, you know what we did? What?
We opened up dady yapp pod atgmail and
open it up for questions and uh comments
and more from everybody because we want
to hear from everybody and we got some
this week and they're pretty good. I was
scrolling through them. I'm like these
are some pretty interesting things. Uh
so do you want me to read them or do you
want to read them?
Uh I'll I'll read this first one. We can
go back and forth. You got Dance and
Ben, who I think is a real person, but
also could just be producer Ben, saying,
"Hey guys, I'm in my late 20s and don't
have kids yet. Growing up, I always
pictured myself becoming a father. But
lately, I've been questioning that. With
everything happening in the world and
the uncertainty of the future, I
sometimes wonder if it's fair to bring a
child into this world. Do you worry
about the world your kids will inherit?
If so, how do you manage those fears?"
Oh, man. I'll just say uh and I'll let
you add to this, Alex. I mean, it's not
a unique thing. Having a child is like
having a a part of yourself just out
there seemingly vulnerable in the world.
You you hope you prepare them, but life
is [ __ ] chaotic. And so it is a a
multiplier to uh your anxieties. I
largely do not care what happens to me.
U but every like my boys, my wife,
that's really that's my world, right?
And that's uh where I don't have
control, but you you you know, you hope
you can protect as much without being
too too controlling or hovering and I
don't know. It's it's a it's a weird
balance, but I'll let you expand on
maybe the actual question.
Yeah, sure. So, the first thing is
producer Ben did just uh hop in the
group chat and yell. He's like, "This is
not me. It's not me."
Uh so, this is Dancing Ben is an actual
person. But I understand the question
completely because it's the one that I
had. Actually, my wife and I um when we
first thought thought about having kids,
uh Trump got elected the first time and
then uh he went away and then we were
like, "Oh, great. I think maybe maybe
it's going to get better." And then we
had our son and then he came back. Uh so
that answers some things for you. Uh but
the other side of it is you can't you
can't let it get in the way. uh if you
want if you actually do want to have a
kid and you want to have the experience
and you know from going from baby all
the way to adult so much of human
history is people struggling with the
exact thought that you've had and to
dancing Ben everyone honestly many of
the people that are in your family tree
that's led up to you had these same
thoughts whether it be World War II or
going through the the fifth century
third century crisis or any of these
other things going all the way back
through human history on whether or not
there's going to be a drought or a
famine or others. There are just these
moments in there. The question is right
now I know there's a lot of fear around
climate change and what that looks like
and others but I have to I have to
believe I have to believe about and I
have to rethink
our parents and us and our generations
were very lucky to be one that inherited
an earth that you know to inherit a
lifestyle that was better than the
generations before them. That is that is
that's unusual in human history. That
has been unusual in human history. And
if you look at other civilizations in
the past all around the world, you know,
the fact that America is so different
because so many of us our families
traveled here from places that were
terrible and came here and we're here at
the the ground level of building this
infrastructure and these systems and
more. Like there's something to that and
we don't know. Like assuming what the f
that the future is going to be bad is
actually one of the worst things you can
do because what it does is it guarantees
it's going to be bad because it
guarantees that you're not going to fix
the pothole in front of my [ __ ]
house.
That's what it means. You know what I
mean? Like it's just it's an acceptance.
And so getting in there I how I manage
those fears is telling people about
those fears
and pointing to it. That's how I do it.
And one thing I've been thinking about a
lot when it comes to, you know, there's
a lot of like we want things to be
better for our kids. No, I've actually
stopped saying that. I've stopped saying
I want things to be better for my kid.
And I my hope is the knock on effect is
if it's better for my kid, it should be
better for your kid, too. Because the
things I want are things that he can
share with his classmates and fellow
kids his age. And that's kind of how I
get I manage that. and also talking to
my wife about it and talking to my
parents about it and talking to other
parents about it because I think there's
a lot of living in fear by ourselves
that makes it uncontrollable. Does that
make sense, Phil?
It does. Yeah. I I'm of the mindset of
like I I'm not I stand against the Erica
Kirk statement of have have all those
babies that you can't afford because
make heaven full.
Then that's there's a lot of that's what
that's what it.
That's what Asmin wants.
Yes.
Asmin wants heaven to be full. That's
what he's doing. No, sorry. I pulled you
back into to FEEL LIKE
I WAS I WAS PREACHING HOPEFUL.
I KNOW. NO, BUT I I think that you know,
you have to look at your individual
situation, but uh you know, make make a
decision. If it's just because the world
is uncertain,
I I think you know, you can you can take
that into regard. I just maybe it's cuz
I'm so anti the the like really angry
people that have villainized anyone
that's having children. I don't know if
you found these [ __ ] miserable
people.
Oh, the child-free. Yeah. No,
childare. I forgot what the [ __ ] they
were because they do not matter.
Um, you can you don't have to have
children, but the people that go to like
the people that go to places like child
free and attack anyone for having a
child in [ __ ] 2026,
go [ __ ] yourself. Can
Can I say something real fast? Uh I I
know that sometimes when we talk about
somebody like Asmin Gold, you're afraid
of like not you're afraid, but in
general, there's like a general thing of
like, oh, are we going to get brigaded
uh by point by poking the childfree uh
wasp nest, they'll be more from them
than anybody else because they they love
being victims. They [ __ ] love being
victims. And I'm like, I'm sorry, buddy.
I I'm sorry you got to sleep eight hours
last night, you [ __ ] pig. But I I my
run into it actually was when I first
things started first blowing up for me
on TikTok and I had a few things and
then we announced that we were having a
baby and 99% of people were cool
but I did see comments of being people
being like oh I knew I couldn't trust
him once he said he would have a kid and
pray to bring a kid in this world and I
literally just went out I was like cool
blocked.
Yeah
blocked because you don't matter. You
don't if you don't believe if if you
can't even pretend to believe that
there's a chance then why are you here?
That's my question.
If you're afraid of what some and this
isn't a dancing Ben, this is more to a
general because I think that his his
brain's in the right place. Yes.
But in general, if you're like, it's all
doomed, then why are you here? That's my
question. Why are you here?
Because if you're like, I I wouldn't
give this to anybody. I wouldn't, you
know, damn this to anybody else. Then
why are you damning yourself? That's my
question. And I'm going to leave it as
open-ended as that to stay monetized.
We then have another question from Young
Guy. Uh, he says, "Hi, Phil and
Pearlmania. I'm a gay man, so I'm not
too worried about accidentally having
kids. Uh, I think I would make a really
good dad someday. My partner is more
hesitant and thinks he wouldn't be a
good dad. How did you know you were
ready to be dads?" Um, I found out
because of a uh I've talked about this
before, I haven't thought about it in a
minute. uh a April Fool's Day prank
where uh Lindsay acted like she was
pregnant before she was actually
pregnant and it made me sad afterwards
because I I all of a sudden in that
moment realized how excited I was. Uh
cuz I had always been like I don't know
uh one am I ready? Two would I be a good
dad? Three you know it's like just one
of those one of those things. And then
when I I was actually I ended up being
very thankful for for that happening
because then I it was kind of just like
you don't know how you're going to be
until you're in the moment. Uh and so I
it was very eye opening to me. And so
from that moment on I was like I want to
be a dad. I want to like grow this
family. And so that was that was me.
That's a very weird unique situation.
Yeah. Um I say every day I'm too young
to be a father at 42. Um, I had so much
more to live.
You and DiCaprio, that's your morning
mantra.
Yeah. Every day. Um, no. I mean, for us
there was it was um it wasn't so much
for me about being ready to be a dad. It
was more of talking to my wife about it
because at the end of the day, it was
her body
um that was going to go through the most
changes and others. And also that you
need to make sure that you have a
partner that also really truly wants it.
Uh we thought actually when we first got
married that we we weren't going to have
kids. And then over time as things
happened and you know we had more
friends who had kids and uh family that
had kids and others and and looking at
like what we were building in this world
and where we were at um you know we we
had to make a we had actually make the
decision because there was some medical
things in the way and others. So it was
we got to a point where we're like okay
we're going to do if we're going to do
this we're going to try this now and we
gave ourselves a window around it and
others. um for there really wasn't any
one moment.
I I would say that for me is there
really wasn't one moment. The hard part
for me was um which would be very
different from young guys uh when and
their partners uh reaction to this is
you know there was we had had some
things before and I it took me a while
to just be excited that it was actually
going to happen. So that was kind of
more of like when dealing with things
like miscarriages and others and um you
know questions around our age and the
viability and others and and looking at
that side of like okay are we until
there was a certain point like we didn't
tell anybody because we had to wait
until like I wanted everything checked
and we're we're good and you know there
was a few things that they the hospital
[ __ ] up at one point and I was like
what's going on and so that was the
roller coaster I think that prepared me
more than anything else um because that
was the I you know that moment of just
like cool I'm I this is not my respon
beyond responsibility now someone like
you said like that that that that the
sadness that you felt and the idea the
fear I had of not having him
uh was more like pushed me into the
other side of it cuz like the other
thing too that nobody really talks about
I don't know if you had this when my son
was born it took like it it wasn't like
instant it wasn't like he
I was going to add this cuz those are
two those are two separate things
knowing or knowing knowing you want to
have kids or feeling like you want to
have kids and then feeling a connection
and like a dad.
Yeah.
Two separate two completely separate
things.
Cuz in that moment, what was crazy for
me was in the delivery room, they handed
me my son and then I had to be sent away
cuz they had to do stuff with with my
wife and I'm like, well, I know her and
I care for her. I don't know this dude
yet. And like having that first hour,
you know, it was and then the stress and
the fear and all those things. It it
took like you know it takes it takes a
little bit of time to to feel that like
that deepness that deepness in there
that once it you know when it locks it
like I don't know what the you know I
mean I know what the exact moment is but
I'm not sharing that.
That's for me not monetizing that
feeling.
And and all dads are different. I've
heard I've had some dads you know say
the thing like from the moment I I saw
them uh
they opened their eyes and saw me.
Yeah. And for for for me it it it was
kind of the same thing. It was like,
okay, this this is my son. This is my
responsibility. Okay, this is going to
be a lot of work. I I I immediately when
whenever something happens, I
immediately start thinking about what it
means as far as a schedule standpoint,
what I'm supposed to do. Even though
even I was joking with you, very
different situation. When I won the Mr.
Beast thing where we're going to be
giving away a million dollars, I
immediately was like, "Oh [ __ ] this is
going to be a lot of work."
Okay. So, I'm gonna have to make these
calls, lawyers, find people, blah blah
blah.
I'm an anxiety guy. So, the second he
hit my arms, I my first question is
like, okay, all the organs are inside
the body. Cuz I just found out that's a
thing that can happen. I just started
going down like all the things. I'm
like, he's collicky. What is it blue
umbilical cord? And they're like,
everything's fine. He's great. And I But
that was that's where my brain is until
I could like calm down enough to really
take in the moment. And then like once
family could join us and more and then
being able to get once the moment I
could get into the relaxation there was
that when his eyes finally focused you
know there's things there's things along
the lines that were in there and for
some people I mean I've met people where
you know if they can at least be open
about it like that there are people that
it doesn't come
and that's the part that's kind of
terrifying and that's you know and sad
but you know there there's things in
there of like what these things are but
how you know when you're ready and and
this question I think from young guy is
young guy, you might feel that you're
ready, but with your partner, it's about
having those open conversations and
whether or not that's something that's
truly
that important to you um over being with
that partner. That's a different again,
that's a that's a YouTube conversation
because I know people who they got in
they got married and they're like, we're
not having kids and then they got
divorced and their partner immediately
had kids.
I know that's happened many many times
with many different people and you see
that kind of story around there. It's a
conversation that you that people should
have and be very open about and that
people have changed on. I mean that was
a conversation my wife and I were at the
very beginning kind of we weren't going
to and then over time and as things also
became more secure for us. That was the
other thing too. It's a feeling of
security uh both financially,
emotionally and more and there's there's
a lot of changes in that.
Cool. Want to do the last question?
Yeah.
You want I'll read it. Okay.
I'll read it. You got the first two. You
got the cool ones. Uh this is from
Corey. Hey Phil and Alex. Love the dad
yap portion of the podcast and the
podcast overall. Thank you, Corey. Uh, I
have a three-year-old and some nights
after work I struggle to keep my cool
and not lose my [ __ ] with them. How do
you guys keep your cool with a
frustrating toddler? Now, I'll let Phil
go on this first because I currently
have one. Uh, and I want to hear from
Phil because I need tips on this as well
to a degree. How did you keep your cool?
Because I was just sat down there
hanging out with you and your boys and
they're great. Your sons are awesome and
they're not toddlers. They're not
toddlers, but they were at one point.
No, I and every every kid is different.
Uh, for me, as far as like in the moment
when you're separated, I think I think
there's a lot to be It's a little woo
woo. I think there's a lot to be gained
about 5 to 10 minutes of daily
meditation, just being by yourself with
some thoughts. Ideally, it's uh it's uh
it's guided, but you don't even need it.
Just let all the [ __ ] insane thoughts
I always imagine, what is it? there's
there's like a street and instead of
cars there's all the different thoughts
and I just give them a passing glance
and just let that go. So cuz one of the
biggest things with a a toddler is it's
yes it can be frustrating in the moment
but it's usually
an accumulation of things, right? It
just it's like it's like oh my god
everything's so stressful and there's
screaming. Um, so I'm a big believer in
the meditation, uh, learning to separate
yourself because,
you know, uh, I think, you know, I've
experienced this as a kid and I've seen
some people do it. Uh, some like an
adult screaming then in the toddler's
face is not
doesn't help.
That's doesn't help. Teach the right
lesson. You're just scaring your child.
Uh, and so and but for me, it's always
having like what how how do I use my
time where it's separated? Uh, and so
something that uh, yes, maybe it's to a
certain degree it started around uh,
when my youngest was a toddler, but hey,
you're going to hate me. The working
out, the hiking, the the exerting myself
because that's how I get that's how I
get my anxiety out. That's how I get my
anger out. Uh, and I and instead of
unloading it on whoever happened to be
the person that flipped a switch, you
know what I mean? Yeah.
Uh, so that that's my thing is is
finding those those other things. Yeah,
there's also a whole other aspect of
this of like how to talk to your
toddler, right? Uh and but as far as if
I'm thinking of just me internally
because I don't know what your child is
like. Uh I just I start with me and then
try and fix from inward outward.
The one thing I found when looking at a
lot of especially uh infant and toddler
media is a lot of it is messages for the
parents that are just being said in
toddler ways. So, a big one I want to
stick with here, Corey, is uh Miss
Rachel, big feelings are okay. It's okay
to have big feelings. And I can't tell
you how often I say that to myself. Uh
number one. Number two, I don't know if
you're with your partner. The other one
that we say, uh I I heard this on
TikTok, but the idea that the baby is
the enemy. Uh as you know, when you have
a a newborn, a toddler, an infant, or
whatever, they're constantly constantly
constantly uh trying to without their
knowledge end it all. uh whether it be
shove a fork into an outlet or eat some
random thing or sleep wrong or any of
these and that's a level of stress.
You're in hyper vigilance. Uh there's
that part of it and then as they turn
into a toddler, I had this yesterday. I
took my kid to the library.
The library, our library has one of
those wooden train sets. So he loves
trains. So he's playing with the wooden
train sets. And then I go, "Uh, so we're
a little bit we usually get, you know,
dinner by 5:30. It's like 5:40." I'm
like, "Come on, buddy. Let's go get
pizza." And usually I go, "Let's go get
pizza." And he's like, "Yeah." Yeah. And
he looked up and went, "No trains." And
I was like, "Oh, no." And so I'm like,
now I'm in like I'm trying to negotiate.
And you can't you can't negotiate with a
toddler. You have to just kind of pull
it and work for distractions or some
things that I tried, you know, and
things along that nature. Um, and he's a
bigger guy now. And so I was just
getting hammerfisted in the neck by a
kid yelling no as I carried him out of a
library. and he was mad as I carried him
into pizza. And it's just sometimes you
just have to kind of you have to just go
I'm going to get on the other side of
it. I think a lot of when I see my
toddler having those moments, I think
about when I quit smoking and nicotine
fits. It will pass. That's the one thing
I think you need to keep in mind. It
will pass. It might be 30 seconds of ah
oh dinosaur. I've had that happen WHERE
HE'S LIKE AH THIS IS THE WORST THING IN
THE WORLD. I COULD SEE HIS L body like
shaking with it. I'm like, "Ah, that's
me." And then dinosaur or it feels like
it's going to go on. I've watched him
like remember later. The other day he
had an apple. First time ever he found
he like grabbed an apple and started
eating it. But it was a big apple, Phil.
It was a It's like the size of his head.
I'm like, "You can't take it into TJ
Maxx." I'm like, "You got to leave it in
the car." But at this point, he's been
going two hours on this apple now. I'm
like, "Apple's getting kind of groy.
Apple got to go." So, we took him into
the TJ Maxx. He was upset leaving the TJ
Maxx we didn't buy the fire truck that
we handed him as a distraction to try to
win over a different argument. And so
we're like rip that bandage. Got him in
the car. All of a sudden out of nowhere
his memory is starting to work and he's
my apple. And he realized the apple's
gone. I'M JUST LIKE AH. SO NOW WE'RE
just going to drive and we're just going
to put on the thing. Just take deep
breaths. Talk to your partner about it.
Like it is a rough one. It will pass. I
do like what Phil was saying though. For
me, I don't do the working out or the
hiking. I yell at the government and my
phone. That's kind of part of it. Uh but
finding those things and again also just
what you're doing right here, Corey,
finding other people, other toddler
parents, other parents in your life. I
don't know if you have a connection with
your own parents, ask them what they if
if you still talk to your own parents,
ask them what they did with you and see
if that was a similar thing. Because I
found when talking to my parents,
they're like certain things I say that
my son's doing, they're like, "Oh yeah,
you did that." I'm like, "Well, how did
you break me of it?" like we didn't oh
like yeah just like that is an
interesting thing and again not for I
know not everybody still talks to their
own parents or they they're not around
so it's up on that side but I would I
would talk around to other people and
find out and get those helpful you know
tips and tricks but also just have those
conversations and then when you are in
that moment you go oh you don't feel
alone you realize that there's like
literally like legions of parents who've
also been through this and that they
also survived it and a lot of them are
dumber than I do like I love the idea of
hey scream man. How do you deal with
your toddler?
I do listen I was dealing with him this
morning. I was He's home right now. My
wife's with him. He's home right now.
And so I was dealing with this morning
and I was like, "Hey buddy, uh you know,
one of the downsides is because we we
film this remote,
we can't have Netflix or YouTube on on
the TV while we record this because it
it [ __ ] up our thing." So I'm like when
he's home because he's not feeling good,
so he can't go to daycare. I'm like, AH,
I GOT TO TELL YOU, daddy got to talk to
Uncle Phil about the government, so
you're not allowed to watch Thomas the
Tank Engine is a real sentence that I've
had to say to my son.
Mhm.
So, you can look your son in the eye and
say, "You're right. I'm wrong."
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